How do I know if my
spouse is cheating on me?
This is a question we are frequently asked. It is
impossible for us or anyone else to know the answer to
this question without investigation. Many people
who contact us already suspect something but want to
know for sure. They believe they have seen
"warning signs" or have noticed changes in personality,
habits, and behavior. There is much literature
available regarding potential signs that a spouse may be
involved with another person. There are also many
factors to consider when considering these warning
signs. Every person and relationship is unique and
there is no one litmus test that can accurately predict
or determine infidelity. We are not experts in
this area. We focus on obtaining factual evidence
that can be used in court.
Can evidence of a
cheating spouse be used in court?
Yes, evidence of infidelity can be
used in court. This type of evidence can be a
large part of the evidence presented during a proceeding.
However, how much this evidence will affect the outcome
depends on different factors, including your attorneys
use of the evidence and the judges perception of the
evidence. Your attorney can better explain the
details and implications of using such evidence.
What type of evidence
can you obtain for me?
The evidence we normally provide in
this type of case involves the documentation of
the activities of a spouse. This evidence usually
consist of video and photographs included with detailed
reports. We can also help to identify witnesses
for court, identify unknown phone numbers from home or
cellular phone bills, check license plates, etc.
How much time will it
take to find the evidence?
It is impossible to say exactly how much time it will
take to find evidence of infidelity. It depends on
how much evidence you or your attorney want. It
also depends on the frequency of the activity and how
much information you can provide us about your spouses
habits. The more information you have about the
activity, the less time we have to spend on surveillance
waiting for something to happen.
Can you follow my
Yes we can follow your spouse.
The more important question is can we do it without
being detected. Normally we can, however, there
are circumstances, which can affect how difficult this
can be. Conducting mobile surveillance is not like
what you see in the movies. We can't just glue
ourselves to somebody's bumper and follow them all
around town without being noticed. Some of the
circumstances that can affect the difficulty of
following any person include, traffic, location (city or
country), the distance traveled, and the person's level
of suspicion or heightened awareness. People
become more aware of their surroundings when they are
doing something wrong. In the past some of our
clients have asked us to follow their spouse soon after
having an argument with them or even after threatening
to have them followed, failing to let us know this
information. This makes our job difficult if not
impossible and cost our clients money in wasted time.
In one case we were contacted by a client who, one hour
earlier, told her spouse she was going to hire a private
investigator to have him followed. You cannot
threaten to have someone followed and then expect that
it can be done successfully soon thereafter. This
type of activity must be planned and all of the
circumstances mentioned above must be considered before
attempting mobile surveillance. Even with all of
the planning in the world, sometimes surveillance must
be aborted due to circumstances beyond our control.
How much will it cost to obtain
evidence of cheating?
The cost will be
based on the amount of time required to obtain the
evidence. The more information you can provide
regarding your spouse's activities, habits, behaviors,
etc., the less time we have to spend conducting
surveillance. Unless you have specific information
regarding when something will happen, there will be a
certain amount of waiting time. We will do
everything we can, with your help, to predict when
something is likely to happen but you must understand
that there can be times when surveillance yields
nothing. It is important to understand we are paid
by the hour, no matter what happens. Sometimes it
is necessary to wait hours to get 30 seconds of
Will proof of a cheating spouse help
me get custody of my children?
All of the actions and character traits of both parents
can be brought to light during a child custody dispute.
Cheating can be shown, and does often affect, not only
the other spouse but the children as well. The
effect of such evidence depends on the judge, your
attorney, and the circumstances surrounding the cheating
activity as it relates to the welfare of the children.
Your attorney can best answer this question for you.
Will you communicate with my attorney
regarding my case?
If you and your attorney
agree, we will communicate directly with your attorney.
Most of the time we communicate only with our client who
then passes along the evidence or information to their
attorney. Your attorney may ask you to sign a
document giving your attorney permission to communicate
with us regarding your case. This matter should be
worked out between you and your attorney.
How will I know when I have enough
The amount of evidence will
depend on the decision made by you and/or your attorney.
If the evidence is being used in a court case, your
attorney should be able to tell you if there is enough
evidence to assist you. If you are acting on your
own, then it is up to you. You have to ask
yourself whether or not your question has been answered
or your suspicions eliminated.
Should I confront my spouse with the
This is a decision you will have
to make and it depends on what you want to accomplish.
If the evidence is currently being used or will be used
in court, you should first contact an attorney before
confronting your spouse. You should also consider
your spouse's reaction to this confrontation and in all
cases consider your safety first. If
your spouse has been violent in the past or you believe
your spouse will react violently, you should avoid any
situation in which a confrontation may lead to violence.
It may be necessary for you to seek professional
assistance in some cases. In any emergency you
should immediately contact the police. If you need
advice or other assistance you can contact the local
families in crisis
testify for me in court?
Once we obtain
evidence for you we will testify in court to support the
evidence. We will testify only to what evidence we
discovered. We will absolutely not lie or
misrepresent evidence in order to further our client's
case. Our reputation is important to us
and we will never jeopardize that. Our fee for
testimony in court will be the same rate plan used
during the investigation. Our clients are billed
for the time spent testifying and the time waiting to
testify outside the courtroom, regardless of the outcome
of the case.
I already know my spouse is cheating
on me, I just want the proof.
It is up to
our clients whether or not they wish to hire us but we
always encourage our clients to consider whether or not
further evidence of what they already know will assist
them. Many times potential clients contact us for
services even though they have substantial proof of
infidelity. We encourage you to consult with an
attorney before paying anyone to obtain further
evidence. The information we find may not be
necessary or may be redundant.
My cheating spouse is in the military
and I want to get him in trouble.
obtain the information for you it is yours to do with as
you please. It is up to you whether or not you
present the information to your spouse's superiors in
the military. We will not do this for you.
We will not speak with military officials unless we are
contacted directly by them. Our clients frequently
ask us about this situation. Keep in mind that
this usually serves no purpose except revenge.
Also keep in mind that from a financial standpoint, it
is very difficult to obtain child support or alimony
from someone who does not have a job. Your
decision to present this type of evidence to military
officials could directly affect you or your children in
the long run. As always, consult with your
attorney before taking any type of action.
What about confidentiality and illegal activity?
All of our work for our clients in confidential.
We will not discuss our work with any person without
your permission. There is one exception to this
rule. We will
absolutely not allow any person to be physically injured
or endangered in any way and we will not allow our
clients to violate the law. If we suspect that our
client intends to harm another person or violate the law
in any way, we will report the client to the police and
assist the police in the prosecution of the client.
We will also immediately take action to
warn any person that may be in danger. This
includes releasing all information, evidence, and
documents regarding our original agreement.
What information do you need to get
In order for us to get started we
will need as much information as possible about you and
your spouse and the circumstances surrounding the
situation. It is helpful, during the initial
consultation, to provide us with your spouse's
license plate numbers, addresses, phone numbers,
employment, friends, habits, pictures or physical
description, or any information that will help us know
when, where, and how to begin surveillance.